It’s a minus today and I am not in the best of my health so I plan to stay home and work but just random thoughts that came to me while I was on a short walk by myself…
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To begin this forward; I have to start with this lovely speech by Ruben Brunsveld where he very consistently highlighted difference of communication or thinking between Asians and the others….He says the world is divided into 2 speeches masculine and feminine…Masculine being….what I want to become by achieving a certain level….what will be the output of my time spent on something and the profit involved….Whereas feminine being….what do I really like to do in life…will I enjoy spending time on this and will be by happy looking back to what I have been doing?......So my Friends… the feminine thinking being the Swedish thinking….Life is not about how much you achieved at an age, but about how much you have enjoyed doing or achieving your dreams or what YOU as a person want to be or have to feel content with yourself…and not please anyone else…
To each the vision of life is different….and hard to say which one over powers which….I take my work very seriously myself…..but doesn’t mean my colleagues do not….its jus' that they have work as a part of their life….but for me work sometimes IS LIFE………
I have been juggling with my thoughts really now…hearing both ends of world..stories like investing x number of millions or about studying to x level or be world famous…and hearing stories like….investing into yourself….or studying a language at 50 not really to proveeeee…but to satisfy your being…..because you like it….
I spend time between people who differentiate seniority in being experienced in life and having seen a lot….and others defining the same as how many years of work experience and the work position…..A simple word with the masculine thought gets confined to just work or social status….the rest of the life elements shell out…..
Being an Indian and not being religious sound like opponents but that’s how I am, however, it does not take away from the fact that I certainly believe that there is divine power ruling us and our stars… I have someone defining thoughts of being religious as something being one’s moral to do good or for some religion being following a 100 year old book of laws…
Just a week ago…my dad was in Udaipur and met a very old colleague of his who at one time was his junior and owns millions now and travels in a BMW and has a huge palace….invited my dad for breakfast with 30 odd dishes…..and said to my dad to not stay in the hotel but with them as they have a such a big house but it’s just the 2 of them(he and his wife)……and my dad was all praises of them….so was my mom and sister….things like wow..Look where has he reached…..I asked my sister…
I don’t get it …where really has he reached?
Staying in acres of house but still feeling like it’s just the 2 of them in there…this is where he reached? Offering 30 dishes on a breakfast table where one eat just 2…Anyways...I asked what he does now. I don’t know…was the answer…what did he do to get there? I don’t know…Feminine thinking…would be to find out with this small and big experiences what inspired him to achieve all this…what was the experience like….but we being we….just see big house….big silver plates…and a BMW and that’s what matters….
I am sure my dad’s friend would have also been least interested in talking of him like we say..aam kha ghutli mat gin….just look at the fancy lifestyle….and praise is what we wan’a hear….of all that we achieved….now the kids are secured is what he said….might have an educated decent daughter and should have married her to a sensible educated guy too…they life is anyways secured….why did he have to create this fantasy world…is this what is achievement….and what does he look back too? Any special moments, experiences, euro trips, trying crazy sports? I am guessing if he achieved all this he might have given up his life…
Ya…I am not saying I am denying the education system we have…or the focus we have on being career oriented…rich, settled….and what not….But today….I desire my focus from the very beginning was to enjoy, chill, be healthy, be what I want to be…and choose my life’s achievement pattern by myself….may be just being a homemaker is an achievement for me…..
But I can’t help being connected to 2 extremes everyday…..and juggle….I don’t know what I want to be or why am I even bothering to change my thinking style….but may be..it’s worth it?
