The unintentional lies
We find many people in a day who ask us, "How are you"? and our regular answer is "I am well". Of course, we even get a same answer when we ask it to any of our friends.
It is said that "I am well " is the greatest spoken lie in the world. The last time when you replied "I am well", Were you speaking lie? Give a though for a moment.
For the question asked, "How are you?"; to only few people we answer as "I am not feeling well; I am sick; I am having depression or Things are completely messed up or etc". And we make sure, If we have answered such; those are among few people of our life whom we have trusted, have faith and we have shared many moments of our life.
last time you were late to office/class and your boss/teacher asked you why you were late, you might have simply replied them something else which hadn't occurred. Yeah, few times in my college when my teachers asked me Why I didn't completed his assignments, I spoke a lie because I felt he can't understand me and my condition and I didn't want to end conversation proving myself to wrong person. I shouldn't had spoken lie, but my heart says it's ok.
Last time when I was in relationship, I had to spoke so many of lies. I was always loyal and faithful to my partner but my personal life was so messed that I was frustrated most of the times. I could share my life with hardly anyone and she was not one of them whom I could speak. I tried speaking with truth but my life itself had a complicate stage that neither she could understand them nor I could decrease barriers in faith linked with her. Most of the time she caught me speaking lie for which I had no any explanation. she got used to fact that I lie on most of the time. Hence even on normal talk she used to doubt the validity of my statements. Result was unstable relationship with daily quarrels and angers. We had to move on and its already more than a year since that day.
After that time, I realized that my unintended lies were the main factors that affected not only my relationship, but also my personal life. I promised myself I won't lie on any of the case. Though there are still few times when I lie, but that is only about my personal matter with strangers, most of the other case if I can't speak truth, I say them I don't want to talk about this topic.
The main purpose of writing behind this post is that I want you readers to know why your partners or spouse or close friend is speaking a lie to you (Frequent liar and your 'just friend' excluded from the list). Unless he/she has a very bad intention, he/she will never mean to hurt you through their lies, still when you find that he/she is lieing to you, it hurts you and disturbs yours relation. That is the case where your relation can stumble. Recap where things might have gone wrong.
May be the person in other side is in their own trouble/dilemma. That can't be shared with you because they feel you can't understand them or they don't want to bother you with their troubles. May be they don't want you to know their pain. May be they feel you might ask questions and questions to that which can add difficulty and complexity in their life...
If you don't agree to above paragraph, have a look at this. Last time when they were really happy, did they lie? Didn't they enjoy the best moments of their life with you? Weren't they for you when you needed them? If you feel it is true, then just learn those lies are not intentional.
*Now Follow this.
Tell them that whatever the condition is you will always have a faith on them.
Tell them not to hide any of their miserable phase with you.
Tell them That you will always give your best to understand them.
tell them that they can always avoid to any further questions if they don't feel like answering.
Tell them that they can once afford to keep a trust on them and you will never break them.*
It's not that this above things will be applicable to everyone's life, but even if this has touched heart of one single reader, I will find my purpose to write this is fulfilled.
So next time if you find anyone speaking a lie with you, either you are a boss or teacher or spouse or parents, remember the faith is lacking in that relation you are. If that relation doesn’t have any value, leave it, but If that relation is worth for you, give a try to improve it and try to get back the faith you have lost. Make close relations with them and try to understand them. And Give them numerous chance because nothing is worth than a relation.
Keep Smiling
Keep Sharing the blessings.
Regards
Suraj
If you have missed my last post The story of Cat who lost her life, Check it out..
https://mouthshut.com/blog/jjedqposom/The-story-of-cat-who-lost-her-life
