It’s of no use to describe how’s the magical feeling of being in love, that too for the first time. And there is also no word to express the agony of being separated from love after break up.
Being separated from loved ones is painful. And it is more painful to let them go. We do not want to leave easily what we love. Right from our favourite things to favourite clothes also. We treat them specially, do care them. So, obviously it’s harder to let the one go whom you love from the core of your heart. We think, we can never love again, can never trust one again. But, it happens, again. We manage to love again, trust again.
Whatever, this is not my point. Break up is not my point either. The increasing number of breaking marriages shock me sometimes. Importance of marriage has lessened with time. A question comes to my mind sometimes that whether it is right to let the one go if he/she is not happy with you. I mean like, we love, we marry to stay together for the rest of the life, to see each other happy, to see the ups & downs together. That’s a healthy & good relationship. What if, you realize that your partner is not happy with you & regrets making decision to stay together? What if, you both are not compatible & fights taking place every time? If you do not fight but regret, is it right to stay still together? This situation is like jail, both will suffocate to but cannot come out. One who still loves cannot come out because of LOVE and the one who loved will die out of guilt – what the world will say of him/her!? Lives would become utter hell and if children are there, they would suffer the most.
Release. Let him/her go and let him/her live the life he/she wanted to. ”Go bird, I let you fly free. Go and find another nest for you. This forest is not for you so that you wanted to stay in a palace.” You will get relief too. Pain will numb you but it’s better to feel not-loved. Sacrifice. It is sacrifice for the good of your love. You always wanted to make him/her happy na?
Getting rid of an incompatible marriage out has also become simple. Divorce! After all we are adopting western culture! We are adopting the bad sides of a culture too. No adjustment, no consideration, no toleration, no trial, no faith, no compassion, no love. Everyone( who is in this situation) thinks that he/she is in deep sh_t & they deserve lot more. And there are options of coming out of an unsuccessful marriage. But I wonder what the parameters of a successful marriage are and who judges that? Only the couple? Or the society? May be one of the couple does not want separation. But who cares? Love is blind. Loveless-ness is blind too( Loveless-ness is not equal to hatred, mind it) . It makes you feel like carrying a burden of those things you do not like. We have many other things to do in life.
Aren’t we ignoring the most divine relationship( that has no blood relation but only mental connection between each other) in earth? Aren’t we taking the benefit of love? Is this love & compassion – the only language in the World as we know? I know you must have another view. Share it with me.
