Think of a group of 4 friends. All together, standing at a pan bidi shop. Three of them smoking, making fun of the one who is not - "Go drink milk", "Oh Baby", "Go play with your Teddy Bear at home", "You are not a man"
What would that guy feel? Lonely? He has no other friend in this world to talk to, to share his good and bad. And what are those friends doing with him? Insulting him. Isolating him. Why? Because he does not smoke.
They all hang together but this lonely guy is separated from them by the smoke of cigarettes. He goes home and ponders over it.
He gets feelings. Feelings tell him, "You want to be with your friends. You want to be treated equal. You want to be a part of the group. You want not be the centre of joke all the time. And you can do that if you start smoking with them."
That lonely guy is attracted towards his friends but has no solution to his problem. He has heard people saying that in tough situations one must go with his feelings because feelings are always right. What he has heard is the LAW OF ATTRACTION.
I ask you, "Is there a scientific proof of it?"
You'll answer, "No!"
"I ask you, "What is a Law?"
You'll answer, "Something that has been proved by reasons."
I ask you, "Can you reason out Law of Attraction?"
You'll answer, "No. It is just a feeling. It is right because that is what my HEART says!"
So that lonely guys heart wants to be with friends and the feeling says go for the cigarette. Isn't it the story of thousands of those who started to smoke? How did you started to smoke? Isn't it just a feeling that tells you without smoking you cannot think? How do non smokers think then?
Feelings tell you what to do in order to attain what you want but, it doesn't tell you whether what you are doing is right or wrong.
How does a person become a gambler?
One day two different persons rise up and get a FEELING that today is their day! They FEEL that whatever number they pick in casino will bring him luck.
It is the first time for both.
Both go. One of them steps out of the casino as a looser and decides never to return back. The other returns as a winner. He FEELS that what his heart said to him was right. And so he plans to return back. He wins again after initial few loses. Now he BELIEVES that what his heart said. Now he keeps loosing and wining and slowly the rate of loosing increases more than the rate of wining. But he has already form a belief. He is now a gambler.
I ask " On what basis?"
You'll answer, " Based on the outcomes of his intial feelings"
I'll ask, " Can you reason out why he then started loosing?"
You'll answer, "Luck!"
Well, when you don't have an answer, you have luck, right?
Nooooo!
This is what is called SUPERSTITION - When you start believing your feelings without knowing the reason behind it and the result ahead of it.
Superstition are feelings we get that ignores all the external factors and makes ourselves the centre of all things - "If we think, it will happen"
Let me give you an example
1000 people submitted their resume for a job interview. All determined. 10 gets selected.
I ask the interviewer you," Does that mean that those 10 were the best out the 1000?"
The interviewer will say," Yes. I FELT them to be better than remaining lot."
I ask, " Were they more determined than the remaining lot?"
The interviewer," Don't Know"
Were they more deserving, more talented than the remaining lot," Don't know but I feel so"
Now I ask you guy," Who is taking the interview? A human. Can't he make mistakes? Can't he just FEEL that this one guy is better than the lot when actually he is dumb and many out there are much more deserving than this one fellow? Yes, of course, it is possible! But only 10 got selected
All of them came with a feeling that they will get selected but only 10 got. Why? Because they did not take into count the external factors such as the choice of the interviewer and the requirements he had.
A person on diet FEELS he should eat another piece of cake in front of him but KNOWS that it is not good for his health/
Feelings are temporary. They can be good. They can be bad.
When you have a bad feeling. The mind tries to create an exact opposite feeling of it.
Suppose you had a fight with your wife at home before leaving for office. When one of your female colleague will talk nicely to you on the same day in office, you will find her comparatively a nice person? Why? Just because you had a BAD FEELING for your wife in the morning and now this girl talking to you nicely is giving you a GOOD FEELING!
Feelings are temporarily.
Will you divorce your wife for that? No? Why? Because you know - Feelings are temporarily.
What you had with your colleagues was Attraction. It is temporary. It gives temporary pleasure but permanent pain.
What you have with your wife is love. It is permanent. It gives temporary pain but permanent pleasure. Sometimes, something more than that.
2-3 years back, I hated gym. But today I love it. Because I chose it not on the basis of feelings because feelings told me that I feel pain and I feel trouble and I feel waste of time. But my mind said it is good for you even if it is painful .
The purposed of the above boring ramayan was just to convey a small message which you now may find simple to understand -
Ask yourself whether the thing you are going to do is good or bad for you? If you are getting the answer yes then,
If you feel good about it, DO IT!
If you feel bad about it, DO IT!
Ultimately you are not going to harm yourself. and the outcome is going to be better than you FELT about it.!
One should know that the outcome of things is not in his hands but trying for it is. Knowing this will help him find the ways better to achieve those things. Just by FEELING one does not simply become a master of some thing. He must have to reason out his plan and course of actions.
Ask a dancer which was his/her best performance, and he'll say, " The one in which I had no knowledge about my pain, my happiness, my existence". Only audience knew that I was performing "
That is LOVE! When you don't feel pain and don't fall for happiness.
