So where do children come from?. Review on Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus - John Gray

Do not read this unless you want to be happy with your partner for the rest of your life!

I am not an evangelist, a lay preacher or anything to do with religion, nor am I a liberal type everyone has the right blah, blah, blah.

What I am and what gives me the right to even consider reviewing this book, is that I have been in a 7 year relationship now, with out a real argument.

Okay, we do disagree and occasionally huff a bit, but we are human, just like I said!

The reason why we have never had a bust up or argument is because of the principles in this book.

Each person has the right to be a person.

No person has the right to tell another person how to live their life. (Although sound advice is OK)

We, the sexes, react in different ways.

We respond to affection in a different way.

We love each other in different ways.

We have different mood swings.

We work and live at different paces

We aim for different goals

We perceive things in a different context

Now if you were to live your life exactly like this book says, then you would be a complete Howard and Hilda, but that is not the intention of this book.

Men are form Mars and Women are from Venus, explains the cultural and emotional differences in today’s modern living.

I don’t want to go too much into what is actually written in the book, as you can find that out by reading it.

This is what the meaning behind the book is.

Example.

Just because you have cooked your partner a lovely meal and put some nice romantic music on does not mean she will jump into bed that night and be a different person!

You need to turn the music down low, clear up, wash up and then sit and talk to her, about her. Do this with genuine intent or it will show.

Usually woman feel taken for granted, and this is because we men are a bit laid back, couch potatoes or whatever.

Not intentionally, but it does happen.

We need to show the woman that she is not only loved, as that would be too easy, but valued as a friend and a person.

And ladies, don’t think you get off easily!

This book also lets you know that we need praise and reassurance as well.

It will come to no surprise to the ladies out there that we are big kids at heart and need to be humoured a bit as well.

This book goes into the reasons why men huff and women huff.

Its quite funny but also very important if you want to live an argument free life!

Sometimes Sherry and I do have strong conversation about getting our own way, but we both respect that we have a decision and try to work around each other’s views.

I guess it beats having to say “I will have to ask my other half” whenever you are asked a challenging question, as you learn what your partner would say and can answer on their behalf without crossing that fine line.

Basically this book is intended for couples that want to be friends and live together in relatively good harmony.

What this book doesn’t teach you is the trust you have to have in each other, and the limits that each of you can be pushed too.

That is something to learn from life itself, and something you learn from each other.

Conclusion

This is a superb guide to living together as friends and lovers.

Not a book to be absorb in whole, more of a language translation book, to be used to ask for basic things in a foreign language.

If you read this and let it enlighten your perception of the opposite sex, and get a better understanding of your own moods, you may never have that huge argument again.

Read, enlighten, enjoy.

Angus