I am adding my opinion. Review on Handling Depression

I went through the reviews and people have really tackled it well. They know human feelings and the best idea was by Pooja, forgive yourself.

Why depression happens.As been pointed out its because we are unable to forgive ourself. It could be due to

1. Professional reasons .you are not doing good at work, you are being repressed by others, you are not given importance at work, you did not received the required promotion and so on. Depression at work are normally sue to being ambitious. Your ambitions out reach your capabilities and you are not able to repress your ambitions and could not accept the fact that somebody else is doing better than you. You will try to reason out the other person is not better than you but he is very cunning and can play politics and if given chance you can do better.

how to handle it. Its a common feeling that you want to prove yourself better. Its very human. But you need to spend time with yourself. Just sit and take things honestly. Even if you are angry on somebody, just try to say the truth to your self, if somebody is better than you, you should accept it and resolve for improving on you. Define the areas where he excels you and make a plan to cover this gap, one by one, Dont be hard on yourself, just chill, have fun inbetween, if work is giving tension, try to have fun with friends and come back to work with a fresh mind. This is the only way in my thinking. I will leave some general tips at the end for handling depression.

1. Love life .These are also common. Felling of being left alone is most scary. This happens due to immature thinking in the first place. It start by chosing a wrong person in your life. Why you do it.because you are blinded by something charismatic in his/her personality and you can not see the pitfalls. Anyway, if it happens and believe me it can happen to anybody, how smart he is, this mistake is common, you need again to accept the fact. Ok he/she left you, there are two way.

feel sorry for yourself for the rest of your life and keep remembering him/her and try to prove the point you reall loved him/her. or else.

Prove him worng. Show him, that he should be sorry for what he did. Show him what he missed in life and lead a good, healthy, fun filled life. Here the feeling of revenge also come handy. Its a bad feeling but it provides you fuel to fight back and prove others wrong. Believe me the feeling of Vengence is handy some places.

1. Too much pressure. This is the most difficult kind of depression. Condition really becomes hopeless when you are screwed from all angles. Your personal life is screwed, it effects your work and your work is screwed, everybody at home is expecting from you and you can not deliver to there expectation. You suddenly start feeling is you are unwanted and if you can not deliver these people will not like you any longer, you dont find a hand to hold, a soul to console. Really scary, if something like this happens, you need some time off and well in time. Once you start sinking there is no coming back. Happend to one of my friends. He was very close to me, use to almost depend on me for his emotional support. I was away for a few months and when I came back, he was gone. I tried to make him recover, he did a little, but he again sinked back. He was holding it against me why I was not there when he needed me, why all this happened to him. Whenever he saw me doing good, I saw a feeling of repent in him, he was a little jealous and he could not accept the fact that I am doing good and he is not. I could understand the feeling, but never could make him recover, I realised its only you who can bring you out of this state and others can only help. You need an outlet when the feeling of depression sets in and find it soon.

Overall, the basic fact is'Hazaro khawaishe aise ki her khawaish pe dum nikle'(thousand of wishes and yoy are dieing to fullfill each of them). This is called ambition, ambition to achieve something in life, ambition to be loved by somebody and ambition to deliver what others expect from you. These feeling are not bad, they are the driving force of life, they make you work and achieve, but they should not go out of control. You need to learn to control them and to succeed you need to learn to be a failure.

Some tips to handle in the depression.

1. A good sleep is very handy to cool of mind and then you can start thinking a fresh.

   
   




2. Try to freak out and have some fun to divert your brain from your problems for a while.

   
   




3. Discuss it frankly with somebody trustable. Find an outlet.

   
   

4.  Your religious believe. I am not very religious by nature, but I have seen people overcoming all there gigantic problems, just by believing in god. So trust something, does not matter christ or Krishan. Trust there is a force out there which will help you when needed and you will be through all this. If you can not be religious, try to trust some human.

1. Accept the facts, reason out and pinpoint the root of problem. Once you are there you can find a way out.

   
   




2. Above all as pooja said, forgive yourself.

   
   




3. Physical activities like outdoor games(tennis, badminton or anything like that) and yoga(meditation especially) are great tension busters.

   
   

So guys try to spend time with yourself regularly, a date with your ownself, do it regularly, it will not let you reach the state of depression and prevention is better than cure. If you still reaches there, backup as soon as possible and counselling helps. Telling your problem to somebody relives you, so better start valuing your trustable friends, they are the only weapon against this mighty evil.