Dec 22, 2004 05:30 PM
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(Updated Dec 22, 2004 05:34 PM)
:The Story:
A relationship between two human being is always very touchy and insecure. It's more important to nurture a relationship after you commit something. This is indeed very tough and very sensitive too. Though fortunately I'm not married yet I can realize the pain to get divorced.
She was my schoolmate. We ate together, played together, studied together since class I. She was born with talent and went to Art College after completing her 10th standard. Her talent made her fulfil the long cherished dreams so soon that I was overwhelmed with joy. After 5 years of studies she started her career as a Creative Designer in a firm where work was fun! Her potential helped her to fly abroad for a couple of months.
She came back with lots of hopes to fly high and reach the sky but unfortunately destiny was something else for her. There was a very good proposal(!) and she got married in 2001. We enjoyed a lot at that ceremony.my friend, she was looking so beautiful yet nervous.
The story started changing, she had to undergo disastrous situation after marriage. I cannot pour up my heart out here as she is my real buddy but only one thing I'd surely tell you all that she has patience. Anyway, in 2002, she ran and came back home and in 2003 she finally got out of the worst phase of her life. Unfortunately those creatures(her in-laws) kept all her educational and professional documents. As an effect she could not prove that she has done certain things as well as has work experience. It was a very tough time and I'm not able to describe the situation she faced.
Thankfully, she is again married now and is really happy this time.
:The facts:
Well, daughters are the apples of their parents. They try to do almost anything to make them happy. In case of my friend her parents also wanted her to be on the top of the world. But, it was really very sad that she had to undergo certain stages at the age of 22. She is always very strong and tried enough not to break up the patience level. Her parents also supported her a lot during the worst phase of her life. It was the time when her parents found themselves guilty but now the smile is back in their face.
:The truths of life:
Marriage is a'gamble'. People say, you should play it at least once. I don't know the facts behind this but yes, it is certainly a'gamble. Many love marriages as well as arranged marraiges fall straight. Again, a lot of marriages turn to be very very successful. I believe it all depends upon luck, nothing else. But, yes, you should try from your side too to make it successful.
:My belief:
I believe marriage is a commitment of lifetime. But, if you have to get divorced you should not feel guilty. You should make yourself stronger enough to face the world. It's very true that our society still points out to the divorcee lady and feels as if she is responsible for it. This is such a belief which need to be changed. Thankfully, there are a lot of people who still do not think all these stuffs, rather past doesn't matter to them.
It's very important that you should think about your kids before thinking of getting divorced. I think in a'Divorce' the kids are the only ones who suffer the most. For a kid, her mother is equally important as her father is. My friend did not have a kid fortunately but if she had then perhaps things would be very tough for her. I guess it's always better to go for a mutual separation. If two of you feel that you cannot stay together then it'd be a wise and more matured decision to stay apart.
If your kids are very small then it's a problem than if they are a little grown up. These days a grown up kid is also matured to understand the situation. So you can talk to them about the problems. Though it's very tough again to deal with certain issues but I can only pray that no one get into this kinds of situation, ever.
:There's another sunshine in your way:
It's my suggestion that never think that you cannot start a new life again. I know it has to be very tough but it should be done. Life is a gift of God and we should enjoy every second of it. Those are very rare people whose life has only soft petals. Majority has to face the thorns most of the time.
So, please don't feel guilty and try to look at the better side of your life. It's always tough to live.but you have to because there is another sunshine in your way.
My dear MSians, I've just tried to pen down my thoughts on this issue, don't know how much it would be useful for you all. But even if you don't like it please let me know in my comment box.
