Nov 27, 2004 10:47 PM
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(Updated Nov 27, 2004 10:59 PM)
Choosing gifts for Mother
Like everyone, I share a very special bond with my mother. She is the best person I know. I can discuss anything with her - from girlfriends to fights with goons. Her birthday is due in Dec - the month I will be leaving home for four long years. This reminds me of her birthday two years ago. My mum is a very practical person and has always asked us not to give her presents. And me and my sister had always abided by that until that day when I just felt like giving her something - something that would tell her how much I love her, and yet I could not give her the moon, something other than the hand-made cards that I had presented her ever since I can remember. Something that could bring a real smile on her face - which I always love to see - and yet I could not buy her anything expensive.
Happiness comes from trivial things. I was almost broke, had just celebrated a generous mini-party in school and my father has always been against advance allowance so it had to be something which would not cost me more than 100 bucks. So I secretly bought a decent looking necklace with Hyderabadi motis(fake pearls), ribboned a flower to it and when we were about to go out for the dinner, presented her with it with a'For the most beautiful woman' scribbled over it. At first she was surprised but then she gave an affectionate smile and the most warm hug I've ever had.
As for advice, gift her something beautiful, something you are sure she'll like. Costly and pompous gifts are meant for girlfriends. For a more intimate and informal relationship like that of a son-mother, little gifts, wrapped with a smile and sprinkled with warmth will win the day for you. Add an'I love you, Mum' to it because ironically, we end up saying that more often to our girlfriends/boyfriends than to people whom we love much more.
Hand made cards
They take effort. and they show that you care. I never ever gift anyone a ready-made card unless its very formal because I find it difficult to express my emotions that way. They appear to me to be an excuse, a compromise. Give her a hand made card - even if you are a grown up and even if your drawing skills are pathetic. Trust me it'll make her day and be a prized possession that she'll cherish ever after.
A warm kiss on the cheek
It's funny how we take our Mums for granted for knowing that we love and'forget' to remind them. It's very easy to form a bond but its hard to maintain it. It's a beautiful feeling when you know that someone loves you - do not deprive your Mum of that.
Anything she'll like
It can be anything - from a saree that you caught her staring at with dreamy eyes, to a minimalistic chocolate box of her liking.
Sometimes the way you present a gift becomes more important that the gift itself. A mother's birthday is one such occasion. Make your emotions count . by expressing them.
