Yesterday I came across a beautiful article by esteemed MS member Suketuin which he narrated the story of a young girl who almost fell pray of ill-minded people over internet. There was a message in that story, now a days family bonding are not so strong. Credit goes to all those so called "modern" version of lifestyles and "don't care" attitude of people. We always expect things to be done automatically,but don't want to pay a little bit of effort for that. This leads to several problems in personal lives as well as in society. Today I experienced something which I would like to share here. An incident that took place just few hours back, but people who are responsible for this will realize the impact later,I'm sure.
Today, when I was preparing breakfast, I heard some loud conversation from the adjacent flat. It's not nice to overhear others' discussion, but.....sometimes we have to experience few things unwillingly. I could hear a lady is shouting at a child, and the child started crying. I followed the conversation for sometimes, then realized what actually happened. In that flat, this lady lives with her hubby and daughter, who is a student of 6th grade. She has a friend in this complex who studies in the same class with her, also in same school. I have seen these two kids playing or chatting, sitting near my flat.
Today I heard the lady is shouting at the other kid. What's wrong? The shock came here.
The lady was telling," why do u always come to see S_____ (her daughter)? Always you make some excuse, you forgot something or you want to play......... because of you my child is getting less marks, you always engage her in playing and all. You study at home, but because of you I can't control my kid. Don't come here, don’t waste her time." Poor thing, she just came to ask her for going school together! This kid felt so humiliated that she started crying.
The lady shouted, "Crying is not going to help. S______ is not at home. You clear off, or I have to inform your parents. Your company is spoiling my child! Before you people moved here, she used to study 10 hours in a day, now she doesn't. If she scores less, will it be you to arrange for her, to be a doctor?"
The girl left without uttering a single word. Before leaving, she also got the warning that no need to tell S______ about this!! Bad luck, her dear friend didn't come for her rescue. She was not there.
The kid left, but I kept thinking. This is it. We want our kids to be successful. We want them to score good marks. What we could not become, we impose that on our children. But........in this process, do we really care about their own desires? Their feelings? Their likes and dislikes? In the movie 3 Idiots it was well depicted. We always want them to be a perfect picture of success, but we rudely crush their own choices under the chariot of so called "shining future". In terms,they pay this little amount for all our sacrifices! Why? This lady was so rude to this other kid,that she is coming in her way. Did she ever care about what S_____ wants to be? I don't think so. From when S____ was a baby,she came to know that she has to become a doctor. Her parents continuously fed this to her memory system. She herself wants to be a fashion designer, she told me once. But....it's useless to those people. They want to make her successful, in their way.
Now,what happens if S______ has no friend? Her parents are busy, both of them are working in some IT companies. She had this friend,who will be scared to talk to her again from today. Making other friends? Out of question. Under mom's surveillance.........next to impossible. What to do then? Only, and one only solution, computer. Mom or dad don't get much annoyed if she sits in front of that machine for hours. What’s "On" now-a-days? Social networking. It's so much alluring. I will not be surprised if I come to know that S______ became addicted to it. Her mom only created the stepping stone for her today. Loneliness can drive S_________ and numerous other kids to do dangerous experiments. A dangerous toy, in the hand of a child is twice dangerous. What happens to them after it, is a hot topic of recent time. Social networking enables them to meet virtual friends, but cuts off the social link to reality. I have come across many people who are so inclined to virtual interactions so that they find themselves quite misfit to the normal social situations. The dangerous game is on.
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