Well,dealing with difficult people is a part & parcel of most of us,in the real life.I am no immune to this & In fact being around with students,I encounter the peaks of a variety of intricate behavior of most Homosapiens entering adult hood from time to time.
Most of these difficult people are those who,U cannot stand or those who don't do what U want them to do or do what U don't want them to do & above all U get so frustrated that U don't know what to do with them.Many a times,I think of Walking to Hussainsagar.
Well, if U have faced such a situation,or if U have not yet,well may be soon U will, as we are not yet in seventh heaven.What U need to do is don't be their casualty.May be U cannot change difficult people or their behavior,but U can change the way U handle them.
When Dealing with them,be flexible,that is have more than one alternative in ur amour.If what U are doing is not working,do something else or do something differently. Anything U do in a different way will increase the likelihood of ur chance to succeed. Well that is ur secret weapon.
Remember that dealing with problem people is like going to the gym.They are giving U a workout of Ur behavior fat (muscles).lol.Although U may not always get the result U want (we never do),the strength U build from the effort may be precisely what U need to safeguard some other relationship that truly matters to U.Wondering,Do I go to the gym for maintaining my relationships?Yep!The fitter & leaner I am the healthier I am for myself. After all I love myself more than anyone else in the world. lol
Don't be unhappy that U have to be around with people who are difficult.There is both, good news as well bad news for U. The Bad news first is U cannot avoid them, they are all around us.Who Know I could be one too.Check the Mirror too. Sometimes hard to digest, but true.The good news is that U get time to study them, understand their behavior patterns & plan ur defense systems & the response. Remember my DP on behavior & response. Well that is the best part of having them around.
Well to identify these characters may take time for anyone depending on ones own interpersonal strengths & weaknesses. But with little of common sense U can recognize them sooner or later. & at times stand back & watch yourself, because commonsensical people like us too at times resort to difficult behavior patterns when in jeopardy or disillusioned which is basically our fight back with the undesired circumstances we are put into.
Those who are like the military "TANK PERSON",Loud,Pushy,Ruthless & if U are in the way U are gone be biting dust.
Then there are these who silently operate right under ur own nose, the "SNIPER PERSON", who will identify ur weakness & use against U, through grapevine, sabotage, putdowns.
Like a kid who throws tantrums these people will explode like a "GRENADE PERSON" sending U to duck for cover,not knowing where to hide & also wondering what it is all about.
Then we have those who know every thing under the Sun,Oops Sometimes above the sun too,make U feel inferior "KNOW IT ALL PERSON".
There are some who throw U off course or the track & confuse U because these people are those who "THINK KNOW IT ALL PERSON".
We all love them they are the "YES PERSON" agree with all that U say & ultimately please no one, may be not even themselves.
Of course there are those who sit on the Wall & watch because they cannot decide,what I term as "MAY BE PERSON", where the fault lies at his/her door step alone.
Then there are those who think Ignorance is Bliss & know nothing,no verbal,no nonverbal,no nothing at all,the "NOTHING PERSON"
Every silver cloud has a dark lining,U think I have misquoted,well those are ur next set of negative people discouraging U,called as the "NO PERSON"
& last but not the least are the one,who wallow his/her woes,drag U into depression pits,nothing is right with world,everything is wrong & is the "WHINER PERSON"
If U can come up with better ones; U are welcome to share them.I from my little intelligence could only understand a few.We all react differently to different types of behaviors & situations.Looks around U will have fun identifying them around U.No need to go great distances to find them.We all can be difficult at times.Understanding ur own behavior will help U understand the others better & ur success with others, irrespective of how difficult they can be.
How are U going to deal with them?Don't ask me.I am learning my ways.Better Stand Back & do nothing.No one can make U feel inferior without ur permission,so walk away with head held high.The best is to change ur Attitude & much better is to change ur behavior & set ur self free from the typical response expectations.Make ur Choice & be in ur own comfort zone.
