Feb 2006. I was there in Ranchi for myself getting married as my would be husband`s hometown was there in Ranchi. One of my close relative was also there in Ranchi for many years.
What a hectic time it was!! My father who was serving in the Indian Army and posted at Jhanshi was the first to visit Ranchi for the preparation of marriage. My mother was the second to come from. She came from Jaipur as our base was there only for last five years so that education of mine and my brother be completed in a better way. I was in Ajmer for completing my BEd and was last to come along with my brother.
What a time it was. Instead of Boy side, girl side was approaching for marriage. There was a certain feeling of `irritation` as I felt the load should be equally shared between boy side and girl side regarding marriage. But, the venue was decided between the elders much before and nothing could have been done now!!
Somehow, I reached Ranchi, but the hectic schedule had taken my toil. I fell sickfor three days, but managed to let others feel easy assuring them that I was alright. I was knowing that under what stress my parents were for accomplishing a smooth marriage. We(with cousins and all even had dance pro grammes in the night time.
The marriage date was fast approaching.
The day came. Suddenly I had started having some mixed feeling. Very soon I will be `handed over` to a new person. For with I remained for 22 years so well, will be `separated`. How will I survive? What will happen to my education? Will I be able to come upto the expectation of my in laws and my husband? Will at times, my self esteem be at stake? will my in laws be interfering with the personal life of me and my husband? and so on....
But, at the other hand, I had a feeling of myself being selected for a great thing of life. As none of my friends were married at such a young age, I felt that I was getting into my `real` life early and I will have more time at my stake for planning my life as a married person.
All went well and I laugh sometimes when I remember those days.
