It is not always possible that you agree to every word I say and vice versa… We might be right at our own stand. But when I want you to accept my point of view that is when the situation is hampered. And you still don’t buy my thoughts… Why will you? You are sensible enough… Aren’t you?
You are keeping your cool and I am trying to persuade you. Here the point to be taken into account is: I have this Monkey (Anger) on my head… Unless and until I don’t transfer that Monkey on your head I am not convinced. So will you let me do it?
In most of the cases the Monkey is successfully transferred. The monkey gains a new boss and the boss loses his cool..! Now once this is done, I am a satisfied soul… Though I didn’t convince you I was able to make an impact on your mind..!
It is not important to win every argument, what is important is to end it on a nice note.
Ok I accept it… So now…will you say Sorry? Why will you? The Monkey is now on your head…! So it’s my turn to set the things right… Alright I’ll say Sorry… But accepting this is a Herculean task for you.
Accept it and everything will be back to normal and we can live happily till I get hold of another monkey? Even if you do, there will be a strained relationship that will exist… With no choice available we accept apologies… And we try not to follow our own foot steps…
But I read it somewhere that Relationships are like glass. Sometimes its better to leave it broken rather than trying to hurt yourself putting it back together… We have to live with it… Live with the strained relationship only because you let me transfer the Monkey…!!
Well, in most of the cases we fall prey to such situations. I witness many such transfers of Monkeys… I cannot stop it and I am a mere spectator of this circus..! Like me many might be enjoying the circus of which you are a part…! All they get is some free entertainment at the price of your emotions.
Whenever I see someone angry I visualize a Monkey on their head and this is enough for me to keep my cool.
Whoever is transferring the Monkey…. Whether it is your spouse…boss… colleague… friend… don’t let them do it and End the circus before that Monkey comes into your court!
Agree to disagree.
