Aug 19, 2003 09:02 PM
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(Updated Aug 20, 2003 12:27 PM)
If you want a committed man; look in a mental hospital ~ Mae West
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Boss: Read this book, it should be pretty helpful to you... in future I mean
Me: ummmm..... I don't need to read this sir, I already know the WHY's........ men lie so that the woman doesn't cry! [lolz]
Boss: Nope, men lie so that the woman doesn't make him cry!!
....and so the argument would have continued, had I not agreed to read the book & give him my opinion on the same. You see, my boss loves to pull my leg about these theories he has of the fairer sex & me being me, won't think twice before strongly protesting on his 'thoughts'. But the truth was that I was intrigued by the title & curious to know what the authors had to say about this much-written topic.... The book Why Men Lie and Why Women Cry? examines the scientific differences between men & women and gives some solutions to overcome these relationship conflicts.
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The Truth About Men & Women:
Men will never understand women & women will never understand men.
And that's one thing that men & women will never understand.
The gulf between sexes, the misunderstandings & conflicts are very much present today as they were decades ago. The author says that with all this demand of equality, being a male today has become a tough call. But then the woman has it tough too, handling work & family... they have become overworked, angry & increasingly lonely. We have all become confused & this book provides the map that will help us through the relationship maze, to identify the false starts, tricky twists & dead ends.
The author's basic premise is this: ''Men and women are different, it's all in the genes.'' They illustrate these facts about human nature & the battle of the sexes with a lot of witty examples & offer solutions as to how men and women should relate to and deal with the opposite sex. This is one the most enjoyable parts of the book - never high-handed or preaching, the humourous yet sensible illustrations linger on the mind for a long time. The one I found most amusing was:
When a woman constantly nags, men tend to suffer from selective hearing. What is interesting to note is illustrated with a cartoon where the woman says somethings which her hubby translates as the words highlighted in the following sentence:
Why dont you get your clothes off the floor! and the dog is running wild through the house again! And do you have to spread your newspapers on the bathroom floor?!
Similarly, while analyzing the other differences there is a very interesting chapter that reveals and gives solutions for 7 things men do that drive woman insane:
Why do men continually offer solutions & give advice?
When she wants him to show empathy, he thinks she is asking him for solutions. A woman usually wants to be heard, not fixed.
Why do men keep flicking through the channels with the remote control?
Men don't want to know what's on TV, they want to know what else is on TV!
Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat up?
In truth, they really don't care about whether the seat is up or down, but can get annoyed with a woman who demands it is lowered, rather than asking him politely - or doing it herself.
Why do men make such a fuss about going shopping?
They rate shopping on a par with having a prostate examination by a doctor with cold hands!
Why do men have such disgusting personal habits?
At the top of the list of men's habits women won't tolerate are nose-picking, burping, body odour, wearing ancient under wears & crotch scratching but the number one on her list is farting! Why do men fart more than women? coz women don't stop talking long enough to build up pressure!
Why do men love gross jokes?
This is a predominantly male way of dealing with emotional pain. Men rarely talk about their sex lives to other men so they tell jokes about it as a way of discussing it.
Why won't men stop & ask for directions?
Moses wandered the forest for 40 years, he wouldn’t ask for directions either!
Why does it take 4 million male sperm to find an egg? Not one wants to ask for directions.
The other questions are about men & their confusion about love, their commitment phobias, why they love high heels on women & why do men have to be right about everything?. Of course, there are a few chapters about women, trying to understand the mystery behind her behaviour/thoughts: why women love men with small, tight bums? why do they nag so much? why do they use emotional blackmail? why do they talk so much? why do the need to know all the little details? What turns them on? There are also male & female sex appeal tests! And a very interesting dictionary of Male Speech Patterns, using phrases from men that mask what they really mean. [''I got some roses for you'' would actually mean ''The girl selling them was a real babe with great curves & I wanted to get a close look'']. This dictionary has some 25 such phrases, contributed by the female readers.
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