What lies behind us and what lies before us
are tiny matters compared to what lies
within us.
---- Ralph Waldo Emerson
What is the difference between a loser and a winner?
The only difference is Believing in theirselves''.
How many of us think that the person next door or the guy in your class is more better than you? You think you are inferior to them because you see their many successes. May it be coming top in the class, or may be having many girlfriends! You also think that wish you could be like him or her.
Let me tell you an another story. It is very personal as I am one of the characters.
My mother used to take me to the town park everyday. She used to meet other women with their kids. One day a woman came to her and started blabbering about her son that he is dumb, he cannot write well and that he is a failure. But my mom used to say that she has a very capable son.
The guy whose mother was blabbering about was good in sports, but the negative thoughts and demoralisation was getting dumped into his mind. So he started feeling that he isn't good. I being an average guy felt a bit better as my mother praised me, and I tried to be better.
All I want to say is that negative thoughts are given to us by our negative society. We start feeling that we aren't good and remain backwards in our life. But once someone comes and encourages, we can come up in life.
So, self development is very essential to get to that word called Success. I have jot down several points that may help you in being a good person henceforth.
So, keep reading.
Your Self-Image
I talked about negative self-image above and gave the reason about it. But you can always improve your self-image by following these steps:
1) No one make you feel inferior without your permission. Forget everything about your negative thinkings, and think about the positive inside you. Think about all the achievements and good moments you had in your life. You will automatically feel good.
2) Try to look good always. Your dressing sense is very important. If you look good, you feel good.
3) Get inspired by reading.
4) Listen carefully to everything and develop your observation power.
5) Never fear about the failure. Always think about the success first. Failures should always be a part of life, and should also be taken as learning lessons.
6) Feel good everytime. Keep smiling and be happy.
7) Try doing good to others.
8) Avoid immoral thoughts like pornography, lust, alcoholism, etc.
9) Whenever someone talks to you, just look at them in their eyes. This is a sign of confidence.
After you have tried them in your life, you will find yourself as a changed person already. Self-image is very important. You have judge yourself first before judging someone else.
Your relationship with others
How you behave with your associates, colleagues, etc. reflects your personality. Once you improve your relationships with others and start treating them good and with honour, you will definitely get the same in return.
Someone rightly said, Life is an echo. Everything that you give is thrown back at you. If you give good, you get good. And if you give bad, the same is thrown back at your face.
Follow these steps:
1) Try to find the good in others then the bad. You can be even more worse than the other.
2) Praising someone does not hurts. It can make your day by seeing someone smile at your compliment.
3) This one is for the married couples. Love is the most important thing that should exist between you two. Trust and faith is the next important. Once you try to love each other, you will find later that you are actually in love with each other!
4) Parents should put in good values into their children. Insulting them in front of public will harm his behaviour.
5) Remember, you are not bad. People think so. You are good as they are. Treat others in the same way as you want to be treated.
Now you love yourself and others. This is a good foundation for a better life.
Goals
One cannot climb mountains just by thinking about it. They have to plan for it and achieve it.
Planning your life and setting targets are very important. It is difficult to reach somewhere if you don't have a destination. Set goals for yourself and try to achieve them.
Here's how to do it:
1) Simple living and big thinking should be your code word for success. Always have a big goal. While achieving it, you will find that you have achieved several other small goals.
2) Be prepared for hindrances and barriers in your path to achieve your goals.
3) Have long-range goals. Be long-sighted and think about the future.
4) You have to try to achieve goals on daily basis.
5) Just believe in yourself.
Now you have goals to achieve, which can take you closer to success and become a good human being.
The Right Attitude
Have you ever tried to achieve many things and then said that it is all too difficult. But you can always achieve them if you have the right mental attitude.
Attitude is more important than your aptitude. We can alter our lives by altering our attitudes.
Generate a good attitude by:
1) Positive thinking.
2) A good mental attitude that everything's possible.
3) Be enthusiastic and enjoy whatever you do.
4) Enjoy challenges. If you looking for a big opportunity, seek out a big problem.
5) React positively in negative situations.
6) Always be optimistic.
Now you have a good attitude to reach your goals.
Work
You can't achieve anything if you don't work for it. Remember, workers are winners.
Work is the foundation of all businesses, the source of all prosperity and the parent of genius. It is the salt that gives life its saviour, but it must be loved before it can bestow its greatest blessing and achieve its greatest ends.
When loved, work makes life sweet, purposeful and fruitful.
Don't be lazy and never give up. Put in a little hard work and reap benefits for your whole life.
So get started and be busy.
Desire
Desire is the ingredient that changes the hot water of mediocrity to the steam of outstanding success.
If you desire to be something or someone, then just go for it. Try hard for the success, and one day you will definitely fulfill your desire.
Think as a winner. You can always get what you want.
Once you have the need, you just have the source where you can satisfy it.
Remember the story of David and Goliath. You can always face the so-called BIG problems and succeed.
Just believe.
I think I have said enough of how to improve oneself. If you want to learn more, I recommend Zig Ziglar's See you at the Top. This is a very good book that changed my life altogether.
So, now I am looking at a better person who wants to improve. He is a winner, and always will be.
Bye then friends. I am waiting for your comments.
Ciao!
