Calm goers Vs talkatives. Review on Rules of Self Developement

Calm goer is one who is confident about himself,his strengths and capabilities.Such persons generally would like to talk only if it is impossible to get out without doing so,since they think that most things are self explanatory or believe-- ''maunam parama bhushanam''.Talkative is one who speaks out and ensures that there is no communication gap.I take above definitions for the terms-calm going and talkative in my present review.

Now the question is whether it is good to be known as calm goer or as a talkative among your group.

Calm goers doesnot talk more hence there is no problem of talking wrong -looks like fantastic idea and sounds great but more and more I found that calm goers loose more and talkatives gain a lot.

The difference between inability to express oneself and a calm goer who would prefer to talk little is not understandable for others since practically both are same.

Be it a job interview or a business deal or an election campaign if you want to clinch it you have to speak out and ensure that there is no communication gap instead of simply expecting the other person to understand things.

Talkativeness is a must in the recipe of marketing managers,administrative and HR personnel.Even in the other fields like finance,research or programming the chances for the success are more for talkatives.

The reasons may be as follows

Number one:It is possible only for James Bond 007 to talk less and get things done .We, normal mortals have to speak out and ask for things to get them.

Number two:You can convince and get a deal in your favour only if you indulge the other person into talking (and not by stop trying once the other person rejects your proposition.This you will observe with marketing guys who will atlast sell their products even if the customers are not much interested in the beginning.)

Number three :It ensures that there is no communication gap.''You think one he think other'' will not happen.

Number four: You feelings are inside you mind, others cannot tacitly understand in some cases.You have to express your feelings.It may be how much you love the other one, what causes you inconvinience e.t.c.

So from now let us be talkative.Just start talking and many things will come out-both important and unimportant.But if we keep quiet neither good (nor unimportant) will come out.