Dec 08, 2003 04:51 PM
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(Updated Dec 08, 2003 05:12 PM)
In our Indian Sanskruti, its well said, MATRUDEVO BHAV, PITRUDEVO BHAV….;expressing gratitude towards parents.Parents are equally put to the position of God .
Talking about caring old parents, becomes very relevant; as day by day we are becoming too much self-oriented.We in our realms of acquiring happiness through rat-race competitions;have forgotten our culture and integrity of family. Modern technologies, science makes person more self-reliant but at the same time each human is getting narrow by the mind.
Scenario of today`s morning heralds young couple totally half dozed awakened by buzzing , shrieking alarms.Wife drags herself into kitchen with one eye on the clock to reach her career destination where she finds herself-her ego satisfied &;and another eye on managing husband , child`s school timings.Once child is packed off to the school, she is still on her toes catering her hubby whereas hubby extremely in hurry gobbles whatever comes in hand and haphazardly zooms towards door, kissing wife here.Afterthat amidst chaos wife pathetically drives herself out for routines and by the end of the day both of them promises each other of remaining together.Now where is time left for old parents.They seem to be apparently true but underline message they conveniently forget their parents giving importance only to own self.It won`t be wrong to remind them the fact that once upon a time helding their parents tiny finger they learned tiptoeing, walking tall, hiking worst blows of life;..That was beginning where these parents sacrificed their wishes to fulfill demands of growing children;.This message is well expressed in hindi film Baghban where they shown parents loving their children selflessly and sacrifice everything to meet children growing demand;.lateron just to find the reality that children fail to realize their love and their thinking goes to such low level that they separate loving old couple
Whereas there is other side of coin also.In shadow of traditions, culture;elder parents literally sneaks away entrepreneuring son`s and daughter's dreams.Children just standstill like stagnant pool water for years together, as their parents becomes great wall of China.Parents also forget that now their days are gone and just as Nature rolles on producing the theory of `OLD WITHERS AND NEW LIFE IS BORN to adorn the beauty .Same is for them to accept their withering process.
One can name this difference as generation gap which be filled by mere understanding and treating each individuals ;HUMANE;.
In spite of all these I definitely feel one has to be respectful to old parents, however they prove themselves shorthanded as after all they were the only creator to introduce us to this world, at the end where we realize that we want to feel our own self.If both of them decide to join in hands to-gether than wisdom, knowledge of old parents can be combined with young mind.At the same time young generation should also try to understand their fears, insecurities..........
In short parents should forgo their stubbornness, ego joining hands with this generation.They would not become victim of humiliation maltreatment, anger of young ones.
My experiences with parents is like the other side of coins.I stay with my old parents.We have seen them two standing opposite on different poles and fighting for their ego boast which is existing till the date.They never bothered for their children's needs....but always remained stubborn on their ideas forgetting comforts for their children.Aftereffects of their such nature we bear it as children till to date where they are at the end of life trail.......No amount of care taken satisfies them.At this point I have grown spiritually and forget them as my parents.I just treat them as individual which gives me less pain and helps me maintain HUMANE BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS THEM.
