Jan 18, 2001 12:32 PM
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Many of us, inadvertanty, or out of fear, respect, socio-cultural norms, or sheer lack of initiative and courage/self-confidence….refuse to take control and surrender ourselves to others; be it family members,parents,friends,peers,superiors, or people in authority etc. and end up being miserable and live a life that’s not our own.
Dr.Dwyne Dyer, a psycho-therapist and counselling pyscho-analyst, and author of many self-help books including the runaway bestseller “Your erroneous zones” is back with another very intersting and useful book; Pulling your own strings.
The basic thrust of the book is to make people take charge of their lives and not to let others victimise,manipulate or control our life. Its only when you are in-charge, you can stop being miserable, and guide your own destiny the way you want it.
Many of us with normal faculties have handicapped ourselves and victimised ourselves by belief systems and mental blocks. In search of security, we compromise and end up letting others control and confine us by using our own limitations and fears against us.
To live a life of your own choice, you have to be a bit rebellious, stand-up for yourself, and stop being manipulated by others by acquiring assertive behavioral skills.
The book gives various tips on victimisation, overcoming the fear of the unknown, avoidance of traps,assertive behaviour, elimination of self defeating judgements,creative aliveness, and many other day to day road blocks that everyone of us comes across.
Last few pages on gauging the victim profile in various day to day situations and the advisible assertive response strategies are very interesting.
The book is a must read for all the adolescents, young men and women, and even grown ups who many times feel helpless, depressed, confused, and victimised. A compulsory reading for all the parents who presume that they alone are best judges for what is good for their children and refuse to let them grow on their own .
