Today is Friday morning, and in this early morning I am writing about love and marriage.
I got inspire to write this because of Yesterday’s Incidence. Actually my wife’s younger sister is in relationship with a boy who does not belong to her caste. They are in love for last seven years and said to be very committed and serious in their Relationship. Both are working well, my sister- in- law is working in HDFC Bank and her boyfriend has established property business. But the problem is both the families are opposing their marriage.
So yesterday evening they came to our home and asked that whether we can help them as all of their relatives are fully against them and threatening that If they would marry then both the families and relatives will break all relationship with them. The Issue was really serious and I was not very experienced in these matters as I myself was never been in any kind of casual or serious relationship in my life. The families are concerned that their relationship might jeopardize their position in society and that ultimately effected the future of their siblings. And none of them either my sister-in-law or her boyfriend does not want to upset their families.
So they asked my advice, and said that they have gone so far in the relationship that it would be impossible to return back and to do a break-up. The girl said that she would not be able to live any other person as her family is finding an arranged match for her, and boy said that he could never ever imagined to live without her and both said that they also do”t want to upset their families at any cost.
By hearing both of them carefully I realized that this is not an ordinary boy meet girl or adolescent crush or romance, it is a serious affair, both were above twenty-five of age older enough to live a life on their own. So I suggested them that you have three options, first both of you can move to the Marriage registration office find two witness, and in your case we could be the witness, as we are the close relatives and get marry, the second option is go into a temple, get marry as per the rituals throw a small party to the people that matters for you, preferably your colleagues and friends and the third is convince your parents to get agree and last but not the least is to do what your parents wished for you, as today you are in this comfortable position like earning such decent money, having own car just because of them.
As we were discussing I got a call on my cell phone, it was my boss who was calling from Lucknow. I got busy with a long conversation with him. Ruby prepared the dinner and we all ate together, after dinner they left to their home.
When they left then I realized that love in these days has changed, it is not that explosive, and couples are not as rebellious as they used to be before, in eighties or perhaps in nineties when it was the matter of do and die. Now people are more mature, sensible and think to keep all options open just to return back when they will not find the way ahead
