Is Physical love love at all? I don't know how many of us think about this question at all. Physical love is a desire, and a burning one in human beings. Most married couples might not be able to imagine their lives without physical love in it I suppose. They love each other in many ways but physical love is one of the most important way to many. Many might put up a philosophical stance and say that they are not really bothered about physical love and they indulge in it because they have an option to. If the option is not there, it would not matter. This I somehow find very difficult to believe in. To truly test it, you should actually deprive yourself from physical love and see if the relationship still can survive. Most couples would never dare such a thing, or even if they do, it won't last for long, before which they would realize that it is just one life and when they can make love, why should they abstain from it?
Is physical love wrong? No. Love can never be wrong? But is it love? Yes., to some. As long as both people feel loved, it is love. But even if one feels burdened, it is not love. In most cases, it is more of an obsession than love. An addiction. Probably, for most men, it is a biological need. But are men the only ones obsessed? Of course not. Women are equally addicted to it. But probably the percentage of men who love physical love would be more than the percentage of women who do. Physical love beyond a point becomes torturous for women.
Many a times, men are not sensitive to the women's needs. While the woman is looking for a fatherly love and reassurance, men tend to deliver love in physical form. And in some cases, the woman wants physical love and men end up showering fatherly love. It is a complicated situation.
In this whole drama, both men and women are left dissatisfied, unloved and lonely. Sadly, 9 out of 10 relationships and marriages are going this way now a days. Egos are so big now a days. neither the man nor the woman loves their spouse more than they love themselves. This self-centeredness is the cause of most break-ups and divorces.
It has to be understood that physical love, though is a form of love, a relationship cannot be held by it. You need much more than physical love to bind two people. If a relationship sustains just due to the physics and chemistry, it will fizzle out sooner or later. It is unconditional love which alone can make relationships sweet and ever lasting..
